Perks of motherhood #1

A three month old baby just had a poopolsion. You quickly grabbed the wet wipes and diaper caddy. As you frantically trying to keep all the poos within the cleanable range, somehow some will find its way out of the diaper. You kept pulling the wet wipes and clean as much as you can, and opps, last piece. Damn.

You reached out to the diaper caddy and there, last five pieces. You took one and left four sitting there. Two more days before you have the time to go for grocery shopping. You have an important meeting at work tomorrow. Oh great. You knew a week ago that you need to get your supplies replenished. Yet, being so hands full and work piling, you thought you could wait. Now it is too late.

Have you ever get caught in such a situation? Yes I do. I stay in a small town and I used to travel to the nearby shop to get, only when my supplies run ultra low. I dont stock them as it takes up space and makes my house looks like a warehouse. 

Ever since the creation of e-commerce, it never happen anymore. The solution: online shopping!

Who agrees that online shopping is one of the best creation? Me

It literally saved me a whole lot of hassle and time and frustration and stress and backache carrying a baby and dragging a toddler to shop alone – the list goes on.

As easy as a click, you get all you need, delivered directly to your doorstep. Milk, diaper, breastmilk storage bags, wet wipes – you named it. You dont even need to change your clothes. You can literally do it while you poop! 

Having that said, shopping at a reliable and trustworthy websites is of utmost important. You do not get to touch or feel the things before you buy. You rely fully on the trust of the seller to give you the best quality. What if they dont? It is going to be a heachache and extra cost to do an exchange or a refund. Well, you dont want that to happen. Especially when online shopping is meant to ease our burden.

I am very careful with where I shop. I only shop at a genuine store and has high payment security in place. Once I shopped at a shaddy website, obviously lured by great products and offers, I ended up calling the Visa Call Centre to get my card revoked and worried for the rest of the night. Or weeks. 

So, dear mummies especially, while you frantically googled to find the best websites to purchase your items, check properly! 

One of my Favourite Shopping Place haha..

This is my favourite online place to shop for baby products. Simple, plenty of choices, fast and accurate. Well, you can go ahead and try. Trust me, you will fall in love with it. 

MommyLove, Jen


One of the days I felt like I am being stretched till the breaking point. Stretch further and I’ll snap.

I need a break.

I need a vacation.

I need a retreat.

I need space.

I need to relax to regain my stretchability.

I need enthusiam.

I need positivity.

I need optimism.

I need creativity.

I need great ideas.

I need kindness.

I need generosity.

I need love.

I need care.

I need laughters.

I need honest communication.

I need beautiful things.

I need to purify my thoughts.

I need to purify my mind.

I need to purify my heart.

I need a complete makeover.

P.s: I need a better haircut. I just had a haircut, and it makes me feel worse than before. Gosh. It is supposed to make me feel better.

How to feed medicine to a toddler without any fuss?

This is one of the nightmares that fears both the kids and parents. Some says force it down the throat.  Some says tie them under the thighs and force it down. Some scares the kid. Do we really have to do this? Does the medicine feeding process be so traumatising to both kiddos and parents? 

Little pistachio rarely falls sick. The major fever was when she had her one year old vaccination jab.  The other time was mommy accidentally dozed off before putting on her pyjamas and covering her with blankets. By the time mommy woke up in shock in the middle of the night,  little pistachio has already fell asleep for more than 5 hours at temperature less than 20°C, half naked. 

Personally I don’t like taking or giving medicine to anyone. Yet,  as a pharmacist, when there is a need to do so,  we shall duly comply, regardless.

How then,  to serve the medicine to a toddler, without much fuss? 

My method is just two simple steps:

1. Make the medicine feeding process as fun and enjoyable as possible. 

2. Involve the kid. Let them do it themselves. 

A toddler should be able to use the syringe by themselves. Or if they still haven’t mastered the syringing process,  guide them or do it together with them.  They love it. 

Follow these steps to a fuss free medicine feeding / serving to a toddler. 

1. Before you feed them medicine:

💉 INTRODUCE the medicine to the toddler. 

 They will be very curious about anything new.  So the introduction is very important. Tell them what is the indication of the medicine. How it can help them.   Nobody likes being forced to take something unusual not knowing the content and purpose of doing so.  

2. During the feeding session:

💉 SHOW them how to syringe out the medicine. If they knew already,  let them do it themselves. 

💉 TELL them the taste of the medicine.  Usually kids syrup has flavouring to mask the bitterness of the medicine.  Depends on the color of the medicine, tell them whether it tastes like raspberry,  apple or any taste they like in particular. 

💉 Most important is never,  ever force it down their throat.  Nobody likes that,  do you?  Never ever traumatise them in the process of feeding.  Never ever scare them with beating or scoldings. Never ever threaten them by taking away their favourites. BIG NO! 

3. After feeding the medicine: 

💉 SMILE! show them how pleased you are that they are one step nearer to recovery. 

💉 PRAISE them for their efforts and courage. 

💉 REINFORCE the benefits of the medicine. Let them know the medicine will make them feel more comfortable and well. 

💉 If they behave really well and satisfying,  you can reward them with their favourite drink or food. Or just a simple cuddle and kiss will do. Kids are very easy to handle.😍

It is of utmost importance to begin the process with a loving and caring manner and tone. A happy tone of voice. 

Once they sense any anger or unpleasant feeling,  you are jeopardising the whole process.  The negative impact can last either just through your the current cycle of sickness OR if you have badly traumatized your kiddo, it might last a lifetime.  You decide.  

Little pistachio will ask for her medicine when the time is up. Inform us that she is unwell. Syringe out her own medicine and feed it into her mouth on her own. Absolutely no forcing.  In fact she enjoys it alot.  I just have to be there to make sure she syringe out the correct amount to avoid overdose or underdose. 

Here’s a video of little pistachio taking her own medicine at 1 year old 8 months: 

Good luck mommies! 

MummyLove,  Jen😊

How to minimise wastage of your breastmilk?

Some mummies have been asking if they can keep the unfinished breastmilk to the next feeding session.

As we know, breastmilk that has been fed to a baby cannot be kept for the next feeding due to presence of bacteria from the saliva exposure. Any unfinished amount of breastmilk that has been exposed to saliva has to be thrown away. This is because bacteria breeds at room temperature / 37°C.

It breaks the heart of a mummy to throw away their precious golden drops, especially those with low supply. Here are some suggestions to minimise the wastage of breastmilk:

Usually we can estimate how much our baby needs to drink for each feeding based on the size of their stomach & how long they latch on us. This can be estimated from baby’s previous feeding.

Some mummies store their excess breastmilk in the freezer for future feedings. Once the frozen breastmilk is thawed, it must be finished in 24hours. Or it has to be thrown away. Freezing in smaller amounts according to the size of the feeding can avoid wastage. Thaw only the amount that you need and confident that baby can finish within a day.


During feeding, pour small amounts (1-3oz) into 2 separate bottles depending on how much your baby can consume each feeding based on your judgement. Finish the first bulk, then top up in small amounts should your baby requires more milk. Repeat until your baby is satisfied. In this way, you only expose small of your breastmilk to baby’s saliva each time. The balance of the unexposed breastmilk can be popped back into the fridge for next feeding.

Only small amounts (max 1oz) will be wasted. Usually i will store them in a separate container for spoilt milk and accumulate them for soap making. In this way i dont have to use my precious milk and still have soap for baby 😀

Thawing and warming frozen / chilled breastmilk in small amounts is way quicker. Thawing 3oz of frozen breastmilk under running water takes less than 5min. Warming a 2oz chilled breastmilk with occasional swirling takes less than 2 minutes. Babies are usually very impatient when they are hungry! Who doesn’t?! Using this suggested method can save you from high-pitched impatient cries and emotional roller coaster.😉

MommyLove, Jen

Should we pump during our first month of breastfeeding?

This is a question that is frequently being asked especially for new mommies.

There is no quick and fast rule for this. It all depends on your condition and circumstances.

If your baby is in NICU, incubator etc, how would you be able to direct feed? So, consider yourself lucky if you are able to carry your baby in your arms and fully seize the opportunity to bond with your baby through direct breastfeeding.

Breastfeeding by definition is to nurse a baby at the breast.

It means directly feeding your baby at your breast, by letting him/her to latch at your nipple.

This is the best practice.

If you are one of those who are lucky enough to be able to latch your baby directly, please continue to do so.

You do not have to pump during the first month. Why?

During day 1, colostrum that contains significant amount of antibiotic is present. This is one of the most important foundation for your baby’s immune system. Your baby’s strong immune system also translate to an easier upbringing in their later life as they will not fall sick as easily compared to those who did not receive the colostrum. Good news for mommies. 🙂

The stomach size of a newborn is as tiny as a cherry. It can only hold 5-7ml of milk each time. During the first 2-3 days, the stomach of the baby does not stretch. Anything more, baby will just vomit it out, causing a mess for you and baby. By 3-5 days, the stomach will start to expand. This is when your milk will start to kick in. With frequent feedings, your supply will increase correlating to the amount your baby’s tummy can hold. Usually by 7th day, it can hold 30-59ml per feeding, roughly
280-567ml (10-19oz) per day. By 2nd-3rd week, 59-89ml per feeding and baby is taking 591-750ml (20-25oz) per day. By 4th-5th week, baby is able to take in 89-118ml per feeding and total about
750-1035ml (25-35oz) per day. By the end of first month, your production will be as much as your baby will ever need.


Should you be pressured on the frequent feedings and suggesting that your supply is not sufficient, this information will help them understand, on baby’s schedule, is exactly what your baby’s tummy and your supply needs.

The production of your milk is directly proportionate to the suckling of your baby. The more you allow your baby to suckle,
the quicker your milk will kick in, the more milk you’ll get.

Baby suckles not just for milk, but also for warmth, comfort and love. During the first month, they are still in a shock being out of the warm and cuddly uterus. Most of the time, baby will continue to suckle even after they are full just for the comfort. When they feel loved, secured and safe, usually they will cry lesser, or even not cry at all. Babies cry only for a few reasons. Hunger, discomfort, insecurity. When they cry lesser, you will feel more relaxed, and production will automatically be more.

Trying to pump during the first month will only shake off your confidence as a new mommy. Your pump yield will definitely be little if you have direct fed your baby before you pump. It will be fruitless trying to compare your yield with other mommies due to differences in circumstances. If they had not direct fed their baby, definitely their yield will be better.

That says it all. Feed your baby, not the freezer. As long as your baby is full, satisfied, feel safe in your arms, that are all that matters. It does not make sense having a fridge / freezer full of expressed breastmilk filled to the brim to show off if your baby is crying, vomiting, or feeling insecured.

Babies who feels safe and secured during their early days, cry less, feels more confident and this translates to less tantrums and a more lovable baby in the future. Good news for mommies. 🙂

Direct feed, whenever possible. Should circumstances do not allow, then pump. Switch back to direct feed once circumstances allow. Babies have natural instinct to latch on your nipple. It is the mother to find out / learn the correct technique, position of holding the baby, bundled with lots of persistence and determination that makes breastfeeding successful. If you bump into an obstacle, do seek help.

Well, that’s it. I hope you got the answer. Keep calm and enjoy breastfeeding! ☺

The feeling of your baby cradling in your arms, are the best feeling as a mother. -MommyLove, Jen-


1. La Leche League Canada. Thursday Tip: Newborns have small stomachs! 2015 May 21.

What to do when toddler starts acting up

Just 2 days ago when lil pistachio started acting like a 2 year old going through their ‘terrible two’ period when she is only 1 year old 2 months & 8 days.

  1. Standing up on a high chair halfway through eating
  2. Give you that mischievious-rebellious-notty-what-what-can-you-do-now-kinda-look when you instruct her to sit
  3. Made lots of noise when you refuse her something
  4. Biting while nursing despite million times of saying no and explaining to her
  5. Giggled and laughed when you are scolding / give her an angry face. She thought you are playing with her.
  6. Refusing to follow instructions just to make you give her that angry face so that she can start giggling away.

Emphasis: She is only 1 year old 2 months & 8 days. I thought this only happens after her 2nd birthday! I am so not ready for this new phase.

I went through a couple of resources and found out that toddlers start testing limits shortly after their first birthday up to 4 years old. Oh well. Guess my honeymoon period ended 8 months earlier than expected.


And so I found out this while I was trying to figure what is happening to my once super obedient baby. This really strikes me.

I gave it a thought & tried this out. All in 4 hours after I got home after work that evening.

  1. I let her play with knife (those butter spreader knife) to cut (murder) the banana. I wanted to use the homemade playdough that i have made last weekend but i guess it doesnt last that long. It has became soggy and sticky
  2. I let her play with the kitchen sink tap to her heart’s desires
  3. I let her help with christmas tree setting up – putting on the decors & the important one – the star
  4. I let her climb up the whole flight of stairs on her own – no screaming and in fact showed her all the tiny figurines when we reached at each platform
  5. I let her play with all her ah mai’s Suzanne Goh trophies – oops sorry ah mai😋… by just taking all the trophies out one by one
  6. I let her play with all the switches to her heart’s desires (rotating 4 switches)
  7. I let her watch our neighbourhood from our balcony
  8. I put up a little drama using my handmade sock rabbit and she was giggling non-stop and ended up hugging the rabbit tightly
  9. She knocked on the door & so i let her out of the room to roam around the upstairs
  10. I guided her to put back all the trophies she messed up earlier. Showed her how to put it back one by one and close the shelve
  11.  I let her choose a new storybook & guided her back to our bed
  12. I showed & read out each and every character on the 135pages thick book and finally she is satisfied
  13. She latches on, still with the book in front of her and flipping pages and me reading out loud to her
  14. She dozed off in 5 minutes – all happy, no struggle, no false signing, no lip-pouting-rebellious-notty-challenging-you-kinda-face & absolutely no biting!!

And me, i dozed off together a happy mom 😂

And yes, that quote works!

The best part is :

  1.  I get 8 hours of solid uninterrupted sleep
  2. 2. Her pampers were dry upon waking up in the morning
  3. She greeted me with pa pa, mama upon waking up, and then po po when she met her downstairs for breakfast
  4. She specifically asked for poo poo, nen nen, and mum mum so i know exactly what she wants

What I noticed are:

  1. The lesser you give a reaction, the lesser acting up it is
  2. The more you allowed her to do what she wants to do, the more she will do as you want her to do
  3. After 2 days of continuously trying out this method, she became more loving & less rebellious – just the way I would love her to be.
  4. As long as the activity is not life endangering and you have the luxury of time to accompany her, I guess it is fine to let her explore some of the so-called dangerous activities.
  5. Show her what you want her to be. Once we tried to instil fear by using a ruler to hit on the table / lightly on her bum bum when she misbehaves, it ends up her asking for the ruler and hit me right on my head. Sometimes when she purposely act up, she would copy our hitting actions and pretend to hit using her hand.

All you need is high dose of love, patience and compassion. ☺

The feeling of their tiny hands wrapped around your waist from behind, is priceless. ~MommyLove, Jen~



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